Full disclosure. I read chapter 3, and just never got my blog post together. Why does this matter? I'm sharing because I'm trying to be mindful about my mindfulness. Trying not to obsess or be a perfectionist. So I read chapter 3. And now I'm blogging about chapter 4 and I am GOOD with that!
Onward and forward.
The opening quote for this chapter comes from a must read book that I read this past summer: Fierce Conversations.
"Our work and our relationships succeed or fail one conversation at a time."
This is so true. In this chapter, the author refers to conversations as "mini-mindfulness moments", where we can focus, listen, breathe before replying, and truly be present. Conversations should should allow space for quiet and reflection.
And as leaders, we have to have hard conversations. Fierce Conversations is a great read- and has really helped me this year to build better relationships and say the hard things- which are really difficult from this girl who loves to roll in sparkle and celebrate mode most of the time. I love the following quote in this chapter by Brene Brown in Daring Greatly- a book I need to read.
- Brene Brown, Daring Greatly 2012
Finally, something I loved in this chapter is the idea that we need to hardwire ourselves for happiness and consciously build moments of happiness into our daily lives.
"Every day you have countless opportunities to create good in your life, and these can be very simple." Some examples include:
- complimenting someone
- greeting another person (I'm thinking drop off and pick up every day!)
- giving a small gift (I thought of thank you cards or notes of appreciation)
- gazing at a flower (or clouds, or the sunset, or faces, or the sky)
- listening to beautiful music
What I'm loving about this book is how much I am noticing everything. I've been so busy that I've been missing a lot.